I recently shared with you that I’ve been dreaming big lately. Mainly I want my life to count. I want to be the best wife and mom I can be in the home, and I want to use my gifts and talents to make much of Christ in the world.
If you’re like me, you have your own goals you’d like to accomplish. Yet somehow many of us aren’t seeing our goals turn into reality. What is it for you that keeps you from pushing forward with your dreams?
My first hindrance has been fear. I’ve been afraid to try, afraid of failure, and afraid of what people will think of me if I put myself out there. But I am learning to trust God even when it’s scary and take that first step.
But courage isn’t the only ingredient to achieving our goals.
For the last week, I’ve been a part of Michael Hyatt’s free Influence and Impact Summit, and it has been amazing. Here he has interviewed many of today’s top influencers, and I’ve learned so much from them as they’ve shared their success stories.
As I listened, I was surprised, yet encouraged to hear that each and every one of them shared a similar theme in their journey. Pushing through their fear was something they’re all continuing to conquer, but that’s not all.
The second essential in chasing our dreams:
Determination to Work Hard Consistently
This sounds like a no-brainer. Of course you have to work hard if you’re going to achieve your goals. These goals don’t just achieve themselves. But what I noticed mostly was their determination to continue working hard, even when the reward hadn’t arrived yet.
I like to think that I am a hard worker. But when I actually evaluate myself, I notice I’m a good sprinter. I work hard for a short bit of time, and then I rest for a while. And as I’m enjoying that rest, I’m always tempted to just give up, and not get back in the race.
The successful people Michael Hyatt interviewed are more like marathon runners. They tuck their head and they keep at it, even when they are tired or when life gets messy. They keep working hard. They do not give up. They don’t make excuses to let themselves off the hook when it’s time to work. In their hearts, they’re determined to make it across that finish line in order to win the prize.
So, why am I not a marathon worker?
I realized there are excuses I tell myself: lack of time/too busy with the kids hits the top of the list. I know many of you have this same dynamic going on in your lives. You would think us stay-at-home-moms would have ample time to work on our goals, right?? Hardly. I find it really difficult to think well with the distraction of little voices. Plus, I don’t want them to notice that I’m always busy doing something else when I’m with them.
But here’s the thing… We will always be busy, no matter what stage of life we’re in. There will always be something to pull us away from pursuing the dreams and goals God’s given us. The question really is: How determined am I to go after this dream? Do I want to achieve this or not?
How does this work practically?
I really don’t know yet friends. I am right there with you trying to figure out the practical side of being a full-time wife and mommy, and trying to work as much as I can on some of my goals.
As I type this, my 19 month old is napping and my 4 year old is watching Wild Kratts on PBS Kids. So I know this can’t be the best method. Oh, and I stayed up really late last night working on the image at the top of this post.
Ideally, I would like to go to bed at a decent hour, wake up at 5 to read my Bible and then work before the kids wake up. You know, I started that very routine last summer and LOVED it!! Then we moved to another state, etc., etc., excuse, excuse….
But no more excuses for me, friend. I am determining right now in my heart to go for it- to step out in courage and work hard consistently, even if that means I have to sacrifice something else I enjoy.
How about you… What dreams and goals has God given you? What helps you maintain the marathon mentality instead of just sprinting, and how do you balance wife/mommy time with work time? Please feel free to leave a comment below or shoot me a note on my Contact page. I’d love to hear from you!